Comments on: The Size 10 Girl’s Dilemma

By: Susan

Susan — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 22:15:32 +0000

I’m a size 4, and even at this weight I still have to fight with myself. I used to be a size 14, and lost 50+ pounds. I spent 7 years following WW (9 months to lose the weight, 6+ years of maintenance). Right now I am up 5 pounds in the last year (new job, new location, free lunch once a week, fully stocked free kitchen). Now I am struggling with learn how to live in different circumstances, and I don’t want to go back to “dieting”. I don’t know what to think – is this where I am meant to be?

By: Driver B

Driver B — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 20:05:31 +0000

I’m in this exact position as well. I struggle between telling myself that I ‘just want to be healthy’ and the days when I look in the mirror and all I see is round. I just have to keep reminding myself that all we can do is try our best to be healthy and happy, and that if the jeans fit nicely, it doesn’t matter what number is on the tag. Definitely tough to remember sometimes though.

By: AmandaLP

AmandaLP — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 03:50:26 +0000

About Shape Magazine, I read a book called The Weight Loss Diaries, of one of their weight loss columnists. She was able to compete in marathons, but did not lose much weight.

By: Kate

Kate — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 15:14:32 +0000

I’m 45, and embarked on a body shaping plan last December; since then have lost 17 pounds and two sizes. When I started, my goal was simple; I wanted to lose 25 pounds. Now I look at myself and how my upper body looks sleeker -with actual muscles!- and my clothes fit so differently and how I feel so much better than the sloppy muffin topped thigh rubbing girl I used to be. Do I need to lose those extra 8 pounds? Will it matter? I fight this constantly because I used to be a size 6. Now I’m in 10’s. And I’m happy with my 10’s because I once struggled to pull on 14’s, but I continually think about those 6’s. Problem with that is I was SO terribly unhealthy as a 6, and now I am superbly healthy as a 10. I eat very healthy foods, do my workouts and accept where I’m at as best I can. Sometimes our ideal of what we think we should be is nowhere near what we our body really requires. Health should be the most important goal. I know it’s easier said than done. I live that. Be kind to yourself and do the best for your body.

By: Sara

Sara — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 13:52:54 +0000

I just got back from a 2 month sojourn to South America, where I put on about eight pounds (in the interest of full disclosure, some of those were put on BEFORE I even left the US). The very night I got back, just last Thursday, I came down with a horrid stomach bug. Yesterday was the first day I felt completely normal. I didn’t lose any weight from the stomach bug, even though I didn’t eat for two days.

I feel like I’m rambling, but my point is this: I’ve been eating healthier in the last two days than I have in the last three years, and even though the scale hasn’t budged, I feel great. I even went clothes shopping yesterday. Ideally, I’d like to weigh 123. More realistically, my current goal is 132. But what’s more important to me right now is eating healthier, exercising, and getting my cholesterol down. (Did I mention I’m only 20?)

It’s all a matter of priorities, and mine have shifted slightly, which works for me. Just find what works for you.

By: Mary Jo

Mary Jo — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 20:02:51 +0000

In response to Juice, I think you’d be pissed off at always feeling deprived. Life isn’t about who is going to look the best at their wake and funeral, life is about living up to your full potential and being a good person and making yourself happy, even if thatm means you need to eat ice cream for dinner tonight because let’s face it, any one could die in their sleep and they didn’t eat the ice cream they wanted because it has too many calories. It seems simple to me and maybe that’s because I’m fat but I’m fat and I’m happy.

By: Juice

Juice — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 15:15:38 +0000

Wow, I think we are living parallel lives. I’m in the same dilemma. Accept 142 and being a size 10 or motivate to see the low 130s and fit into 8s (and possibly 6s)? I was 126 when I went to college. 20 years later I don’t know if I have the energy to pursue that number.

How would my life change if I were 133? Would I be happier? Have more dates? Be pissed off at always feeling deprived? Inquiring minds want to know…

By: Bridget

Bridget — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 15:13:22 +0000

I admire your honesty. I’m having exactly the same difficulties you are. I’m anywhere between 145 and 149 on any given day of the week, despite my dedication to the gym. Since I’ve started using weigh machines I’ve gained about 4 lbs. I know its muscle, but its still annoying to see the scale number creep up. I guess I’m just loving life too much to try to get back to the 130’s. I’m learning to be happy with my thunder thighs.

By: Mary Jo

Mary Jo — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 12:17:20 +0000

Sometimes being the healthiest you can be is more important than being a size 4. You said it yourself about other people in your life, they are a size 4 because they starve themselves and that’s just no way to live your life. I personally think that hungry people (and most people who are a size 4 are habitually hungry) are sometimes really miserable people. Think about having constant hunger pains and you won’t do anything about it because then you might have to bump up to size 6. Is it really worth it? I don’t think so. Besides, you are far from fat. Maybe, instead of concentrating on getting thin, people need to just concentrate on living their life and being as happy as they can be and just being good people. In the end, that’s really what matters most anyway. You are already a good person, just keep that momentum going and you’ve won the batter.

By: Emily Joyce

Emily Joyce — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 21:11:56 +0000

The key is learning to like myself as I am…some days are easier than others, but I know when I get up and walk and eat sensibly and let go of the past, it is easier.